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5 Key Considerations When Preparing for Divorce Financially: 5 Key Considerations When Preparing for Divorce Financially:Question #1: Are you currently making ends meet?There's a common misconception that divorce creates income.But in reality, all it does is create expense.When you separate your lives, you'll now have two of everything. Two housing payments, two utility bills, two health insurance policies, etc.You'll also lose those volume discounts you get when you're married such as the multi-car discount on your auto-insurance or the family share plan for your cell phones.If you find yourself carrying credit card balances month-to-month, you need to think about how that's going to play out once you're divorced. Are the balances on your cards from a one-time expense that you just didn't have the cash on hand for?Or are you using credit to supplement your day-to-day living expenses?If it's the former, you may be able to simply pay that off and move on. But if you're using credit to supplement your income, moving forward with divorce is only going to make a tight situation tighter.All of these items need to be documented and negotiated if you're going to come to any kind of agreement on alimony. And the foundation for coming to an agreement on this difficult topic is what each of your expenses are post-divorce and for how long you need support for those expenses.There are very few formulas surrounding alimony in the United States.It all comes down to negotiation.While you're preparing for divorce, you'll want to be sure to choose a divorce option that emphasizes negotiation over bullying such as divorce mediation. Question #2 to ask yourself when preparing for divorce financially: Do you want to stay in the house?Staying in the house for the children's sake is an emotional decision all parents grapple with. I know my mom did when I was a kid and my parents were preparing for divorce.In addition to having to pay the mortgage utility bills, you need to think about and be honest with yourself about your ability and desire to pay for house upkeep and maintenance.Specifically:What does it cost to maintain the yard? If you hire people to do this work for you, it can really add up.How old is the roof, driveway, siding and/or shingles? These are significant repairs that can cost $10,000 - $30,000 to replace.How old is your furnace, air conditioner, water heater, etc? These are major repairs that can run in the $2,000 - $10,000 range.Do any appliances need replacement any time soon? Dishwashers, washing machines, dryers, etc. can cost anywhere from a few hundred to a few thousand dollars.Sure, you may be able to scrape by paying the mortgage, but what if something goes wrong?Can you afford to stay in the house?And what will staying the house and struggling to make ends meet do to your ability to retire or pay for your children's college education?Once you start your divorce, be sure to enlist the help of a neutral-third party  who can take a critical look at these expenses and help you determine if staying in the house makes sense and is a possibility in your particular situation. Question #3: How stable is your job? How stable is your husband's (or wife's) job?The social contract between employers and employees has changed significantly over the years.It used to be that you could keep your job for life if you wanted to.These days, it seems that you can be let go for any number of reasons without warning. And if you lose your job, there goes your financial safety net.If you and your husband or wife need both of your incomes to make ends meet, you'll want to think about the stability of both of your jobs.If there's any fear of lay-offs for either of you, you may choose to postpone your divorce. Like the old saying goes about not being able to get blood from a stone, true also is you can't get child support or alimony from an unemployed ex-husband (or wife).So if you'll be relying on support after the divorce, you'll want to be sure that, at least to the best of your knowledge, his or her job is going to be stable for the foreseeable future.And as previously mentioned in #1 above, there are very few specific formulas around alimony.So when it does come time to discuss this issue, not only is the amount and duration subject to negotiation, but so are the conditions by which alimony can be suspended or terminated.An expert  will make sure all known possibilities are discussed and agreed upon. Question #4 to ask yourself when preparing for divorce financially: What will your new life cost?Whether it's you or your husband who pays the monthly bills, don't get caught off guard with the cost of living.Say you've been living in your house for the past 10 years and have no idea what a three bedroom apartment might cost. Or that cable and Internet can run a family like yours $300+ a month. All of it adds up.Take some time before you divorce and research what your living expenses post-divorce might be.This will serve you well.Many people are caught off guard when they discover that the child support and alimony they're going to receive won't fully cover their bills.Remember item #1 above? If you're just scraping by now, you may not be able to make ends meet after you divorce unless you can increase income or reduce expenses.Once your divorce starts, having a neutral third-party mediator look at both of your expense profiles and identify ways to save on expenses can free up income to help support yourself and your children as you embark on your lives apart. Question #5: What will the actual divorce cost you?While this may not seem like a financial issue, it absolutely is.How you proceed with your divorce, and ultimately what it will cost you, is a major financial consideration when preparing for divorce.Couples who can put their differences aside and mediate their divorce for the benefit of their children will spend far less and keep divorce costs in check than if they hired family-law attorneys and litigated.The more you spend on your divorce, the less money you'll have to care for your children and start your new life.Because divorce is more about negotiation and money, mediation is a far better forum to resolve these critical issues.Instead of your divorce becoming a war with a devastating price tag, it can be a cost-effective negotiation between the very two people whose lives will be impacted by the settlement: you and your spouse. Benefits to preparing for divorce financially.Focusing on the financial considerations will not only help you with how to prepare for divorce, but will also help you make better choices during the process.And increase your ability to secure your financial future.Get our  to learn more about preparing financially for divorce. Mandy Walker, Divorce Coach / Mediator / PC-DM - Divorce Tip #1: Take Your Time.This applies to many of the aspects of getting divorced from  to all the logistical aspects of separating from your spouse to the legal process itself.Most of the time there isn’t an urgent pressing need so beware of arbitrary deadlines that create unnecessary pressure to make decisions.Divorce Tip #2: Do Your Research.Don’t make any assumptions and certainly don’t base your decisions on what happened to a friend or family member. That’s how you end up with agreements that aren’t in your best interests or worse yet, simply can’t be executed.It’s never too soon to start researching and researching doesn’t mean that’s what’s going to happen. It just means you’re gathering more information.Divorce Tip #3: Understand the Legal Process.The legal process varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction but these days there are a number of options for working through that process.Understanding the basic process and how it will apply to your situation, understanding your specific complications will help you to choose the path that is going to work best for you. Lois Misiewicz, Founder, The first tip I would offer would be to do some real soul searching to understand why the marriage is ending.It’s easy to put all the blame on your spouse, but that’s not fair to either of you. When you assign all the blame to the other person, you are making yourself a victim. Having a victim mentality gives you a sense of powerlessness.To have a peaceful divorce, both people need to feel like they are on even ground.Also important is to keep the lines of communication open.Having an open, rational dialogue with your spouse will go a long way to maintaining the peace. I remember when I was growing up, my mother always told me, “It’s not necessarily what you say, it’s how you say it.” Often we don’t realize how people are affected by the things we say, so think before speaking.Using the services of a good mediator can help keep the lines of communication open.Sometimes a couple that had communication problems during the marriage will learn from the mediator how to have an open and honest exchange of information, while expressing their needs and expectations in a positive way.Finally, try to avoid “knee jerk” reactions.Let’s face it, divorce is stressful. When we’re under stress we don’t always think before we act - add to that your spouse pushing your buttons and it’s easy to see why that happens. In my personal experience, most of my knee jerk reactions didn’t go so well for me.When confronted with an issue, stop for a minute, take a deep breath and think about the best way to handle the situation. It’s ok to say, “Let me get back to you on that” or “Can we talk about that later?” so you have time to think the situation through.Using these three tips for getting a divorce will help make what could be a hostile situation much more amicable. Justin L. Kelsey, Esq., Mediator, Collaboratively trained lawyer and Owner, The experience of a peaceful divorce does not happen by chance or by accident. It is a choice that you make and the good news, even in divorce, is that you have a choice.Here are a few tips to help you choose peace over war when getting divorced:1. Choose a process, don't let the process choose you.While many people think litigation is the only option in divorce proceedings, there are many process options that can be tailored to your family's needs. Mediation, collaborative law, and outside of court attorney negotiation are all more flexible options than court.Learn about all the options before you choose one.2. Preferences before positions.It is a common mistake to jump to conclusions about what you want before you have all the information. Instead of saying "I want the house" or "I think this much support is the right amount," consider all the options before you make a decision.Many times your favorite option on day 1 is not the best option when all the information is gathered.3. Use a "timeout."Language can be hurtful, demeaning, and misunderstood or it can be uplifting, freeing and create peace. It's very easy to react when faced with a divorce and the fears that are natural when splitting time with children or dividing finances.Don't be afraid to pause, call a "timeout" and gather your thoughts before responding. Licensed Clinical Social Worker3 Steps for How to Prepare for Divorce Emotionally and Keep it Peaceful: 3 Steps for How to Prepare for Divorce Emotionally and Keep it Peaceful:1. Set an Intention.Setting an intention requires you to think about how you want the process of you divorce to go and what you want the outcome to look like. This intention can serve as your guide along the way.It will keep you focused as you navigate the decisions you’ll make and the way you interact with your partner and/or your children.2. Learn to Manage Your Feelings.Divorce can be an emotional roller coaster, lots of feelings come up and at times they may overwhelm you.Find someone to emotionally support you – a friend, a therapist – so you can stay connected to the person you want to be even in the face of intense divorce emotions and tough decisions.3. Invest in the Process.One day the conflict will be over and you will think of your marriage as something in the past. Do your best to be thoughtful and patient.Every step of the way, take into consideration your own well-being and the well-being of your children as well as the impact on your partner. Meanwhile, focus on your life today and make time for some fun and meaningful connections with loved ones in your life. Mediator / Mediation-Minded Attorney / Mediation-Friendly Consulting Attorney / Collaborative Law Practitioner / Conflict Resolution Coach1. Don’t assume that your divorce case cannot be handled through the mediation or collaborative divorce process because the two of you aren’t amicable and have trust issues.Well-trained mediators and collaborative divorce practitioners have acquired skills to de-escalate conflicts and rebuild trust.Litigation is an adversarial (combative) process that inherently escalates conflict and breeds paranoia and litigators haven’t typically learned the skills taught to mediators and collaborative law practitioners.2. Don’t consult with or retain a litigator, unless they also happen to be a well-trained facilitative and/or transformative mediator and/or a collaborative divorce practitioner.Otherwise, it’s like going to a surgeon and expecting them not to recommend, or at least be biased toward surgery. You can only give what you have and teach what you know.3. Don’t assume that your spouse won’t be amenable to the mediation or collaborative divorce process, even if they have already retained litigation counsel and possibly served you with adversarial pleadings.People convince themselves that their spouse wouldn't agree to something about which they never even asked. Ask and you may receive.Let me rephrase that as follows: You can’t expect to receive that which you didn’t request. Clinical Psychologist / MediatorMy best tip is to have a plan.How many times do couples try to ‘wing it’ – especially when it comes to discussing some of the challenging aspects of divorce – telling the children, finances, home, boundaries. You cannot wing a divorce.Discuss together beforehand how you will tell your children and what this will look like, what will be said, etc.Are they different ages? Depending on the age, will determine what you say. Be prepared for different questions. Be prepared for no questions as children might mull over this huge change in their life.But, what will be said and how the living situation will change/remain the same should be discussed before any discussion with the children. This will demonstrate that parents can still provide a united front (making children feel safer) as their relationship changes.What is the best financial situation you can create?What will the finances look like, who will pay for what.People often believe they can afford 2 of everything – but often cannot. What can each person compromise on? Will this change in the future?Where can concessions be made?Examine what your post marriage life will look like in terms of coming and going.What I mean by this is when a parent is dropping off a child/children, what are the boundaries? Do they come into the home? If one person is staying in the marital home, what are the boundaries?Sometimes in the beginning there is more leeway, but as people move on and adjust to impending divorce, expectations around this very topic need to be addressed – proactively. Moné Ardura and Danny Burk, Attorneys, Mediators, CDFAs & Founders, Resolution Point, LLC1. Play the Cards YOU Dealt Yourself.Many clients express frustration about the difficulty of mediating with their spouses who “just won’t change!” They often say to us things like, “You’d think of all times, he/she would be trying to get along!” or “My spouse was always [pick one: controlling, demanding, greedy, etc.]. Isn’t it time for her/him to change so we can get through this?!”We encourage you to consider the circumstances you are in when you’re wondering why you’re finding yourself fighting the same battles.If your soon-to-be ex was controlling or unresponsive to conflict before beginning the divorce process, there’s very little about the divorce process that would cause that to change. Indeed, it is perhaps one of the most stressful times you each might have ever experienced.Under stress, we all tend to revert to what we know best, even if it’s difficult or nonproductive behaviors. In fact, there may be some consolation in knowing that you too are under pressure and are likely to be resorting to your behaviors and styles that have been with you the longest. You might wonder how knowing this could make the process more peaceful for you.Understanding how your soon-to-be ex actually deals with conflict will allow you to better prepare to negotiate because your expectations will be based in reality, not on wishful thinking.By the way, sometimes a mediating spouse will suddenly get this point and say with some resignation: “I guess I have to play the cards I was dealt.” But we then remind the mediating spouse that he/she picked the other spouse. “You have to play the cards YOU dealt yourself when you decided to marry the person you are now divorcing!”2. “Here Comes Da Judge”: Your Spouse IS Da Judge!When mediating with your spouse, picture yourself in a courtroom, and then imagine that whenever you’re speaking to your spouse, you’re also talking to your judge. If you were in court, would you be disrespectful, aggressive, unreasonable, or manipulative with the judge when presenting your wishes? Of course not! You want the judge to understand your situation from your perspective, and you want the judge to agree with you.In divorce mediation, there are exactly two decision-makers: you and your spouse. The mediator has no vote and can’t break ties. Ultimately, you’ll need a unanimous vote for every decision, so if you approach your soon-to-be ex as you would a judge such as with respect, reasonableness, and thoughtfulness, you are more likely to be able to negotiate successfully. You may be able to avoid the side arguments that often happen when we are disrespectful, aggressive, unreasonable, and manipulative.3. What are Friends for? Seek out Reliable Information from Professionals.In today’s world with so much access to information, it can be hard to decipher which information is accurate.If you begin your mediation process having read or heard something that might relate to your situation, you may build false expectations on how things “should” come out. Equally, you may have unnecessary apprehensions about outcomes that you’ve heard about (with regard to parenting plan, child custody, child support, spousal support or alimony, division of marital property, etc.), but that ultimately may have nothing to do with your situation.Additionally, there are certain things you should rely on your friends for such as support, sympathy, and psychological encouragement.Remember that there is a reason they are your friends: they’ll be on your side whether you’re right or wrong. They will be there to support you regardless of your position and regardless of the big picture.But for this very reason, your best friends are probably not likely to be reliable resources for facts, legal advice and objectivity. And just because your friend tells you that the “same” thing happened in his or her divorce doesn’t mean that the situations are identical and that the results will be the same in your case too.So what’s the solution? Rely on the Internet carefully. (Ok, you can rely on this article!) Rely on friends for support. But rely on objective professionals such as divorce lawyers, financial advisors, and mediators to help you figure out where you stand and what might happen in your case. David Klow, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Founder, 1. Slow down.Most couples benefit from slowing down in the divorce process.Often they feel like they need to hurry up and get things over. They imagine that things will be much better once its complete.Yet what I've seen is that if a couple handles the process in a mindful manner, rather than rushing, they feel much better in the end.2. If you want a peaceful divorce then you must be at peace with the marriage.Find a way to accept what was, understand how it got that way, and release the past. These are effective ways to find peace.An individual counselor can be very helpful with this process.3. Stay connected.During a divorce, people often feel the foundation of their life change in dramatic ways. Everything that they once knew is no longer there.In order to have a peaceful divorce, it is vital to stay to connected to friends and family. Do not isolate.Find ways to stay in touch with people and places which make you feel at home, and know that once on the other side of the divorce, that you will find a new sense of normal. Morghan Richardson, Esq., Attorney and Founder, My office handles hundreds of divorces each year. Still, I’ve never had a case where the couple fully agrees on the history of their relationship problems, so avoid talking about fault and blame when you break the news about your decision to divorce because it will only lead to unnecessary arguments.Avoid fights about the past – troubles and wrongs are all things that you can hash out with a therapist, not your spouse.These past problems may be the reasons you are getting divorced and if you couldn’t solve them during the marriage, you won’t solve them at the end of it.Most people are uncomfortable with conflict. But you cannot afford to “ghost” out of a marriage when you have kids and property to divide. If you haven’t told your spouse you are unhappy, the news of a divorce will be even more devastating to them.Lessen the sting of that news gradually by setting aside several times to talk about your unhappiness and thoughts of divorce before he’s about to be handed papers.When Janet told her husband Matt that she wanted a divorce, he ignored her. A few weeks later, a process server showed up at the door and handed him papers marked “divorce summons.” That’s when Matt realized she was serious. Despite Janet’s efforts to let Matt know her feelings, he still expressed shock and resentment.The person who initiates the divorce generally has the advantage of time: they have moved forward in their mental and emotional process and feel more comfortable in their decision to divorce. The spouse receiving papers usually has emotional work to do before he can come to terms with the divorce.Once you’ve made your decision to divorce, talk to your spouse about it with certainty and discuss how they want to receive the divorce papers.Having someone jump out of the bushes to slap papers in their hands – or worse, having them served divorce papers in front of their work colleagues – can create extra conflict and stress. Most process servers are willing to coordinate a time and place of service.Just a little information about the start of the process and filing for divorce can go a long way in establishing that you are using the divorce process as a tool, not a weapon.Before talking to the kids about the divorce, get a few age-appropriate books that speak to them about divorce.Work hard to make decisions together about what you are each saying to the kids. Kids hear and understand more than parents realize. Creating a unified front will let them know that even when you are apart, they can expect unified parenting from you. E.M., Former divorce mediation client of Published with permission – initials used to preserve confidentialityI feel that a few ways to prepare for an amicable relationship during and after the divorce are to decide and agree upon what overall goals you want to have for the long-term relationship, especially if there are children involved, and then both start verbalizing (if possible) and visualizing them right away.Decide on what specific positive parts of the relationship you want to maintain and verbalize them too.Then, if possible, start living these principals as two separate entities right away while you're still living under the same roof, allocating money, resources, time, and effort, preferably having two separate bank accounts and budgets.The budget prep [required for the divorce process] is absolutely horrendous and overwhelming, and can easily escalate to shock and blame, so the more attention that can be paid BEFOREHAND to having easily accessible and attentive, well-kept records, the better, faster, and smoother that process will be.Lastly, make a huge effort to give each other compliments as often as possible, as this process is so painful, depressing, debilitating, exciting, relieving, and renewing, and everybody deserves respect, dignity and love. Marriage and Family Therapist / Adjunct Professor at Seton Hall University, Marriage and Family ProgramSo, you and your spouse have reached a point where there doesn’t seem to be any way to repair your differences and have come to that dreadful place of recognizing that the only option left is to divorce. 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Deal with the emotional aspect of the breakup above all else. Divorce is a time of great emotional pain and enormous change. You may have done your utmost to save the marriage, only to have it result in a definite end. If you're finding it difficult to work through the changes and sense of emotional loss, it is vital to seek counselling from a neutral party, as this will help you deal with the loss of trust, respect and affection within the relationship. Learning coping strategies will help you to survive the pain and losses. Emotional problems you may encounter include: It may become very traumatic to accept that you have been rejected or replaced. It leaves you feeling as though you have been rejected and affects your self esteem, especially where you're the partner who has been left behind. Feelings of anger and resentment need to be diffused to allow you to reclaim your life as a single person again. A sense of emptiness when looking into the future can overwhelm you. Worries about ever sharing your life with someone again are naturally pervasive but can blur your ability to recover. Feeling wounded, sometimes very deeply and not wanting to open up to anyone else about any of your emotions. Your sense of trust can be shattered. Aim to see the positive side to dealing with lawyers and the courts. While this part of divorce proceedings may be stressful, once over this does provide some tangible benefits to the divorce process. Partners are now legally separated from their duties to be responsible for one another. Moreover, the certainty as to assets that arises from the legal process can settle the messiness that emotional attachments create. As part of coping with the legal aspects of divorce, the following considerations will help a more peaceful process for you: Know your legal rights. It is important to know your rights and how to enforce them in relation to property settlement, maintenance, and custody. Knowledge can help to keep you calmer and more at ease about what is happening to you. Find a lawyer you click with. Don't settle for the first one if that lawyer doesn't feel right. Sometimes the strain of divorce can be more than matched by your irritation with your lawyer's antics, so be sure you're happy with this person before agreeing to retaining them. The more aggressive and "take-all" the attitude of your lawyer, the less amicable the settlement process will be, so bear that in mind when choosing one. Consider a mutually lawyer-free divorce. Recognize that a bad divorce lawyer's interest lies in smoothly, calmly sucking you in to a war. Divorces are largely boilerplate; a Google of "divorce for" returns "divorce for dummies" as the first hit. Unfortunately if you have children divorce may be too complicated for the "do it yourself" approach. Good divorce lawyers are not interested in sucking you in to war. They make more money in the long term by providing fast, quality service that leaves you happy with them and willing to refer them to your friends, family and even total strangers. While reading up on how divorce works is a good idea remember that book like "divorce for dummies" are written for a national market. They are not State specific. If you and your spouse are able to reach an agreement on every single aspect of your divorce you can draw up your own paperwork using a form found on the internet but you should at least pay for an hour of an attorney's time to have them review it. This could save you time by having them point out minor mistakes that could prevent the judge from signing your decree. If you have children the situation is even more complicated as there are numerous additional requirements that the State may impose on you that a lawyer can make sure are there and done property. Paying a lawyer for an hour of their time to review your document makes more sense than spending 2 hours at the courthouse just to have the judge tell you there is a flaw in your decree and that she isn't allowed to tell you what it is because that would be giving legal advice and she can't do that. Avoid bitterness when assets have to be divided. This creates major unhappiness as each partner feels robbed and this generates arguing as to who is entitled to what. Most couples struggle to agree on who should get what. Couples ideally should focus on creating a new life, new environment with no lasting memories of the cancelled marriage. This notion will help them not to fight over items that will bring back memories and pain of the once held marriage. Have all the facts and figures in hand to assist your lawyer in building a sound financial case and to convince your spouse without arguments and assumptions being involved. Use receipts, documented evidence, and other reliable sources of information to back up your wishes. This could include writing out a complete financial history of your marriage that reflects the resources you have, estimated value of shared property, individual assets, and liabilities. While this may sound calculating, it is no more than being factual and facts are your best approach in keeping emotions down. Give your spouse the option of what to take from the house. You may be extremely surprised at how little discussion is required to divide a household when you free up the taking. For many couples, it becomes clear that there always were "his and mine" or "hers and mine" divisions in the house and it is only when arguing that these evident divisions are used as weapons to wound one another. Take away that chance by simply offering your spouse the opportunity to take what they please. Their own sense of responsibility and guilt will do some of the sorting for you! Toss a coin for items you have each paid half for. It will even out in the end. Are your belongings so worth the angst otherwise? Decide on how family life should be organized when children are involved. "Who has custody", "How can visiting rights of the access parent be arranged", " How can parenting responsibilities be shared between two parties", are all important issues that need to be resolved. It is not healthy for the children when parents use them as weapons against each other. Children are not protected from the conflict and bitterness that rages between angry parents. Put the children first and avoid creating situations whereby children become emotionally trapped by their loyalty to both parents. Watch out for transference of emotional abuse from an abusive parent onto the children. Neither do this yourself nor allow the other spouse to do it. Signs include "You'd choose to live with me if you loved me." That is classic manipulation and when done to children, it is unkind and places the children in a bind they can't win whatever they say or choose. Use a consultant or mediator to assist with determining custody arrangements if you don't feel you're able to do this yourself. If the custody arrangements have to be agreed to by a court, or you end up in court anyway, a court that can see the parents already trying hard will be impressed by the teamwork and consideration given to the children's needs first of all. Be prepared to trial a few systems before settling on the one that works for both of you. You can't possibly know what will work out best until you've given different arrangements a chance. Take into account the children's impressions too. For the greatest peaceful transition, both of you should be prepared to share the major decisions about the welfare of children and to continue to interact with one another in relation to the children's lives. Deal appropriately with adjustment in the community. Most often divorcing couples have to leave a community of friends and colleagues to join another. Shared friends from the former marriage often need to choose whose "side" they are on. Deal with losses in a mature way, knowing that some of these friendships, like the marriage were never meant to be. This can be a huge loss for many people who had valued the relationships formed and a sense of belonging that they once shared. However, being realistic about the relationships can help smooth the path for you. Avoid expecting your friends to take sides. If you don't speak ill of your ex-spouse, they have less ground to do so either. If you reassure them that the divorce was amicable and that the two of you are still friends, sometimes this may ease the tension with friends (provided what you say is true). Equally, don't bring up your spouse at all; this breaks the connection for both you and your friends and allows everyone to move on. For more ideas about how your friends see the situation, read How to be a good friend to both parties in a divorce. Learn to regain your sense of you as an individual. This part is marked by seeing yourself as an individual again rather than being a part of an intimate couple. The intense reactions of denial, anger, bargaining and grief need to replaced with feelings of acceptance. Give yourself time. Initially you will probably feel fragmented, vulnerable, broken, low in self-esteem, and various other emotions depending on your gender, whether you initiated the divorce or not, and what has happened through the course of the divorce. For some, there may be an absolute sense of relief! Whatever the feelings, coming to terms with your new life requires time and the formation of new routines and habits. In order to keep your own inner peace, avoid self-blame. Relationships require two people and the consent and involvement of both. If you try to blame yourself for what has happened, then you will feel guilty, angry, and helpless. Blame is a useless emotion and when it is related to the end of a marriage, it simply causes you harm. Accept that the marriage has ended and that there are new things to do in life now, including finding a new sense of purpose. Take up yoga, meditation, or a martial art to give you the chance to develop your inner focus and as a source of relieving stress. Distance yourself from all aspects of the broken relationship. Move on to rediscover your own individuality. This is referred to as the central separation, the stage when the person starts to feel whole again. At this stage, you need to have clearly defined rules in your head about any further interaction with your spouse, in order to continue maintaining the peace. Some of these rules could include (they're up to you): Treating future interactions in a professional, business-like manner. You still need to talk for the sake of the children? Act like you're in a business meeting at work, with the well-being of the children being the business at hand. End any conversation with your ex-spouse that turns into a shouting match or where you're constantly interrupted. Explain that you'll talk again when everyone has calmed down. Make it clear in future meetings that should your spouse interrupt or explode, you will end that meeting too. Never use children to relay information to your ex-spouse. Use emails or the post for this. Avoid texts; they're too personal, intimate, and too connected. Depersonalize all of your communications. Keep your points simple (it can help to write down points of discussion first) and keep everything neutral. Cut the ties. Don't talk to your ex-spouse for advice, help, expertise, or anything of the sort unless you have no choice in a work context. Find new places for advice, such as your accountant, doctor, lawyer, paid home handy-helpers, or someone else in your spouse's profession or line of work. If you need more money for the children, work it out as a business proposal with your ex-spouse and do not beg, cry, manipulate, or show yourself as a victim.

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Getting a divorce is different in Scotland and Northern Ireland.. Grounds for divorce. When you apply for a divorce you’ll need to prove that your marriage has broken down and cannot be … login

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If you use our 3-step process to generate your divorce petition you can initiate your divorce in less than 3 minutes and save up to £720. Last year, over 22,000 people in the UK used …

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